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How To Plan A Wedding 101.


How To Plan A Wedding 101.

They say it takes a village to raise a child. In that case I’m going to wager it takes at least a county to plan a wedding…

In the beginning we wanted a festival style wedding. A huge field, live music, teepees, hundreds of folks and all the catering and decorating that goes with that. And then we figured out that when you insert the word “wedding”, the price of everything shoots up by about 500%. The thought of organising the logistics and the scary bill at the end of it was starting to stress me out before we’d even begun. Not to mention that with every extra item we added to the list it felt like we were getting further and further away from what the day is actually about. Y’know, being joined in matrimony in front of our nearest and dearest and celebrating our love and commitment with them. That small matter.

So one final wedding-zilla quote came in and Westy bride finally snapped. I felt sick at thought of spending so much money on one day, at the production of it all. (No judgment here if you want / had a huge wedding, it’s just not for me, see previous post.)

 “We’re getting married at the register office and having a party at home” I declared. And that was that.

How lovely I thought. A small, intimate, low maintenance, low key, low stress wedding. Little did I know that any of the above phrases immediately create an oxymoron (out of me) when placed before the word “wedding”.

Admittedly we pulled it together in just 5 months. And for 2-3 of those 5 months we were pretty chilled, convincing ourselves that doing half hearted gardening, house clearing  and online shopping was our best effort towards wedding planning.

But even if we’d had a year I know we could not have done it without the support of the people around us. My spiritual path teaches that Spirit works through other people. My spiritual path is sooo right.

So many people pulled through for us, some at our request and others completely unsolicited. And we heartily appreciate every single one of them and their mighty efforts.

We had an incredible day, it felt so perfect and exactly as I had imagined it. Intimate, fun, full of love and laughter.  Most importantly it felt very “us”. It felt like a true reflection of our style as individuals and as a couple. And I’ll say it again, we could not have done it without other people. Just another beautiful contradiction I’ve discovered about wedding planning and life. If you want to create a perfect expression of yourself, you’d better call in the troops.

If you’d like some {spiritual} help planning your life, including but not limited to your wedding and all the joy and stress that comes with it, check out my free training series “Create Your Kickass Spiritual Gameplan” starting today.

And now, finally, gratuitous wedding pictures. Thank you for being patient, I needed some time alone with them. #westyandpettitt

For the full experience here's the song I walked down the aisle to... 

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Photography by Rob Smalley at



Why we're failing our young women.

Just skimming through my bumper issue of Grazia, not half way through and I've already come across these articles ...

"I always feel second best to my sister in everything I do", about a girl who has purposely distanced herself from her elder sister as they are pregnant at the same time and says she will continue to keep her distance when their babies are born because she can't bear what she feels are unfair comparisons between her and her sister... 

And "I'm addicted to trolling celebrities", about a girl who was bullied at school and now takes out her unresolved vitriol on random people on Twitter.

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A quote from the latter: "I keep telling myself I'll stop when I finally have a life that makes me happy; when I have a boss who respects me and a boyfriend who adores me. I guess then I'll have better stuff to do. Right now, though, I don't - it's the quickest way to transform how I'm feeling."

Now I'm loathe to turn this into a sales pitch but honestly, this is why I do the work I do. It breaks my heart to read the psychological pain our young women are going through and the lengths they are going to, to avoid, mask, temporarily cure all the crap that's swirling round in their heads.

I'm British so I can, and intend only, to speak for my own culture, but we are just not set up as a nation to know how to handle these kinds of issues.

Reticence, stuff upper lips, keeping calm and carrying on, it's all bullshit because we are creating fucked up young people. And not so young people for that matter, because if you don't solve it at 22, you get the same thing reoccurring at 32, 42, 52....

I'm not saying that spirituality, A Course In Miracles or my Spirit DJ work is the definitive answer. There are many answers. But the work I do is one doorway that is available, and in my experience works on every level of disappointment, disillusionment, dissatisfaction and despair.

If you feel the same way I do, or you are one of these women that could be in next week's Grazia, I've got two things coming up that you might like to know about...

My super special edition, hot to trot, NO BS live all content show on Friday 21st February at 1pm GMT - The Awesome Life Show: How To Have a Spiritual Breakthrough and a Totally Awesome Life in 6 Mega Easy Steps - Register here if you fancy it.

Please spread the word. Happiness is everyone's birthright, and if in any way I can help our amazing women to remember this, I need to do it. xo